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WHAT IS A SAPIOSEXUAL:<\/p>\n
So, what is a sapiosexual?\u00a0 The answer is both simple and complex.\u00a0 In the most basic of terms a sapiosexual is a person who is attracted to the intellect of others.\u00a0 If you ever found youself fawning over a teacher, an honor student, or highly intelligent fictional character then you are likely a sapiosexual.\u00a0 Now the complexity of the term comes in the fact that the desire for an intellectual partner can be as simple as a preference or as overwhelming as a fetish.\u00a0 Some people are in need of intelligence to even feel attracted, while others might find attraction in the fact that their partner is capable of holding a decent conversation and is educated enough to understand complex ideas.<\/p>\n
However, despite differences between the levels of importance for intellect, the basic question still remains: do you find brains sexy?\u00a0 If the answer is yes then by definition you are a sapiosexual and if the answer is no, then you are not.\u00a0 Yet, in the general nerd community it would seem that most people fall into the sapiosexual category to one extent or another, though there are exceptions.\u00a0 It should also be noted that to be a sapiosexual you do not need to be smart.\u00a0 In fact lesser educated or less intelligent people have perhaps a greater tendency to be sapiosexuals because often times a person will seek out lovers that have traits they lack (i.e. an introvert dating an extrovert).<\/p>\n
Highly intelligent people tend to build groups of friends that are intelligent and thus intelligence is not necessarily something that is a \u2018must\u2019 for a partner.\u00a0 However, the power or status that comes with intellect can be seen as highly desirable by those who lack that or are surrounded by those who lack that trait.\u00a0 For example the attraction to a teacher is a simple way of seeing the lesser educated person desiring the more educated person.\u00a0 There are plenty of vapid people who seek doctors, lawyers, and professors for marital partners and while the common rule is that they do it for money, it is also very likely that there is some sapiosexual aspect to their attractions.<\/p>\n
It should also be noted that attraction is more than one little part.\u00a0 After all, someone who likes blondes might be dating a brunette or\u00a0a person who likes taller partners finds one that is of equal height.\u00a0 While people can use a generalization to describe their ideal partner it is not always the main thing that a person will look for.\u00a0 However, there are still means by which to take advantage of the interests of others if you are an intellectual looking for a worthy partner.<\/p>\n
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HOW TO ATTRACT A SAPIOSEXUAL:<\/p>\n
Being an intelligent or well educated person has many advantages, but it often comes with the disadvantage of spending many hours studying instead of socializing.\u00a0 It is very common for intelligent people to be socially awkward or have limited social skills.\u00a0 Thus searching for a partner can be difficult and searching for a partner interested in their brains is even more difficult.<\/p>\n
There is no \u2018one way\u2019 to attract someone else.\u00a0 Experts, books, and just about everyone else has a different method or offers different advice.\u00a0 However, when attracting a sapiosexual things are a little different.\u00a0 This is due to the opportunities that occur to show off your brains within the nerd world.\u00a0 The real trick with this is to not appear like an ego driving douche.<\/p>\n
One of the easiest ways of showing off your knowledge is running panels at conventions.\u00a0 Signing up and speaking may seem intimidating, but it is very easy to do especially when you have some expertise in the subject.\u00a0 If you love hero comics, do a panel on that, if you love import video games that\u2019s your panel.\u00a0 Take what interests you in the nerd world and work with that.\u00a0 Show that you are both knowledgeable and passionate about the subject matter and people will come up to you after the panel to follow up.\u00a0 If you are attracted to one of those follow up audience members then ask them to join you for something else at the convention and see where things go.<\/p>\n
Secondarily it is possible to write about nerdy topics or make intelligent posts on websites or social media.\u00a0 While finding a partner from this is not likely it can drawn in people whom you may meet at various events.\u00a0 This is not a reliable method and will likely not work out as well as one might expect, but it does get your name out there which come lead to any number of positive results.<\/p>\n
Third, you can go to any normal \u2018meet market\u2019 while carrying indicators that will tip people off to your intelligent nature.\u00a0 Something things like college shirts, a book, or having a discussion with a friend can let people know that you are on the smarter side.\u00a0 While bars, clubs, and parties might be filled with people don\u2019t expect anyone to just jump at you and ask you out.\u00a0 You need to not only put out the \u2018smart\u2019 signals, but you must also notice when you are noticed by others and you must not be afraid to talk with those that notice your status or show interest.<\/p>\n
A final thing to keep in mind is that you should dress the part.\u00a0 Smart people have a stereotypical look of being well groomed, nicely dressed, and often avoiding anything trendy.\u00a0 Having glasses or being clean shaven are not as important as one might think, but be sure that if you do want to go the beard route that you make it look nice.\u00a0 Look nice, show off your intelligence, and don\u2019t be an arrogant prick that\u2019s about all you need to do in order to have a sapiosexual eventually find you.<\/p>\n
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ATTRACTING THAT SMART PERSON:<\/p>\n
Whether you are average or genius you might find that you are also a sapiosexual and you\u2019d like to get that perfect erudite person to notice you.\u00a0 Well, as stated above the smarter folks tend to not be the most social, so the first tip is to approach them and talk with them.\u00a0 Odds are a smart person will not be an extravert so you will have to make the first move.\u00a0 Also bear in mind that you should not be overly aggressive in this approach, just talk, and flirt if the feeling is right.<\/p>\n
Beyond that there is not much else that can be done.\u00a0 The intellectual will either be into you or not.\u00a0 The only other things you can do to put things in your favor is to look nice, be friendly, and most importantly be patient, socially inept people tend to not pick up on signs too well.\u00a0 If you have moved to a point where you feel a little more comfortable with your erudite love interest then don\u2019t be afraid to ask him or her out, even if that \u2018date\u2019 is something like seeing a panel at a convention or playing video games.\u00a0 Let\u2019s face facts, many people think that smart is sexy and now we have a word that defines that desire.\u00a0 So go forth, have fun, and remember that just because we are nerds and geeks doesn\u2019t mean we don\u2019t deserve a loving partner.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n – Jared<\/p>\n jared @ scarlet-rhapsody<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" WHAT IS A SAPIOSEXUAL: So, what is a sapiosexual?\u00a0 The answer is both simple and complex.\u00a0 In the most basic of terms a sapiosexual is a person who is attracted to the intellect of others.\u00a0 If you ever found…
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